Is this Love?!!!

Things people do for Love!

I recently read a story in the dailies about a man who was complaining that his partner made him have "the Snip", and has now left him for another man.

Don't start thinking in your mind that this is the trend or that he is a "mumu" in local parlance, or a "fool" as the case may be. And for anyone who may not know what the "Snip" means, it’s simply having a "vasectomy"" or simply "sterilisation for men".  Did you think I was talking about "vasculating the tommy...., or better, vacuuming the tommy".
Ok let me get back to the story, which is the main reason for writing this blog.  Now, the main reason is simply that the so called "Loved-up" man was told by his partner that she does not want any more children.

Background:
The lady has children from her ex-husband, whom she left for the "Partner".  After much ranting and being badged for months, the man lost all grounds and went for the final snip.

After a short while, she left him for another man, for whom she is now PREGNANT. This is indeed quite a tragedy as you would be thinking right now, given the initial fact that the woman does not want any more children.

My question now is:
Would you go to this extent to show someone that you LOVE them?  Mind you, she left HER HUSBAND to move in with the partner, and my thinking is, "Shouldn't this be a sign for the man not to sacrifice his future as far as child bearing is concerned?"

The most heart breaking of all, is her response to the man when he was complaining as she was leaving him. She said "You could always have it revised if you could find someone stupid enough to want any children."

Now he is regretting to have ever gone for the snip.  Still he has not come to terms with the situation based on his utterances - "I would never have had the snip if I hadn't loved her and wanted to stay together."  And he has been in constant contact with her through one of the Social media sites, and she wants them to have a drink one of these days, but is contemplating telling her NEW partner of his ordeal.

My View
In my mind the woman is a rolling stone and does not have a clue what it takes to be committed to someone; much less LOVE them.  To me, the woman in question so "mixed-up" in her thoughts, and seems not to have a mind of her own, as she is not even able to be committed in her relationships. If I am to ever suggest, I would say the man should forget her and start the process of rebuilding his life. He can go for any kind of counselling, or better still, seek for relationship advice.  He should have also known that if she was willing to leave her husband for him; he had his coming as well and should not have made such a big sacrifice for her.  Not forgetting it is said that love is blind.

Now is your turn to comment.
Now I will urge you to comment on what you think is your own view about this.

Mend a Heart

Imagine if you fall down and have a wound on your knees, though it might be a bit bloody, but I bet you would easily know what to do to stop the bleeding.

You can either "get up, clean the wound and continue to walk......" You may still feel the pain from the wound, but "maybe" soon it will all heal by itself, or go and see your Doctor for any medical prescription.

Supposing you are feeling ill or sick, and you visit your Doctor or any Medical practitioner, and after examining your body may says "I am going to give you a prescription ......." You consistently follow the medication and your ailment goes.

Now what of a broken heart??
Is there ANY Medical Doctor out there who can heal a broken heart??

Have you considered asking yourself "Why there no one, that can be able to put all your pains away???

Broken heart is like having that bad feeling as if someone is holding your neck and trying to suffocate you, as if you can breathe, and someone is always watching every move you make.... its like you don't even owe your life anymore....., you are down, depressed, angry with yourself, feel used, feel cheap, feel like an old handbag..... your temperament changes, you wish you could go for an anger management course, cos you feel you can't hold it again. You feel like ..... well I would say that everyone who have passed through this knows what am talking about...…

I get lots of people that still ask this funny question that seems to have no easy answer..... "How can one get over the Broken Heart syndrome??
Let me tell you.. the best answer to that is Please don't bother seeking for a Doctor, because 99% of the time, the answer you need is just right inside you..... if only you can search very well, you will know that you alone can make the necessary change come to your life.

You just have to be the Doctor for yourself, and take break from every person or situation you have identified to be the source of your unhappiness. There is no need to waste your time with anything that will constantly spoil your mood every given day, because this life is too precious, and in other to survive, you have to be strong, increase the intensity of your smile and always think positively.

You will notice that with time, your life will start having a positive outlook. Your energy levels will increase, because you are always smiling, even your posture will dramatically return to normal, ( now let me not hold you from laughing and asking why "posture").


Now here's another remedy,
Take yourself out, meet some friends old and new, as far as you have their faces lite up with smiles.
Get some retail Therapy - Buy new shoes (looool thats for the women and even men too... lol) you would feel better with all the people around you in the shopping mall, all the shoes, dresses, handbags that are beckoning you to buy them... waoooo , you sure can do with that company

I know that there are lots more to add, but just try these few out, after all the only thing you would loose is that sharp pain in your heart.

One thing you should always remember is that "Experiences are part of our lives as humans, we sometimes need Good/Bad experiences to learn to endure and get stronger and grow emotionally and otherwise".
So its very important that we start accepting the experiences we are confronted with, and with self discipline and positive thinking, coupled with an every green smile, we can handle any and every situation that comes on our way. so like the wound on your knees “GET UP, SMILE AND CONTINUE…...."

Contributed by Nadine B (Germany)